The only fight I can ever recall us having happened before we even got married! I love that with a little tweaking, I could have written this! So I wasn't really an adult yet, but I sure felt like one. My parents married at the age of 20 after becoming friends in high school and are getting ready to celebrate their 41st anniversary. He is now here on leave for a week and we have obtained a stronger bond, a stronger love, and a stronger vision together. My husband and I married at the ages of 20 and 23. I believe young marriages can work just as much as old marriages.
Be willing to roll with these changes alongside your husband and stay in sync with him through it all. We're both stable in every way, neither of us have debt or any other major baggage. There was quite a bit of speculation when we got engaged and married, but we have since been able to encourage others who have considered marrying young. At 21, your brain has not even finished developing. Everyone changes and change occurs at many points in life, not just in your 20s! He is the love of my life and I can be myself when I'm with him. No regrets, just learning experiences! My husband and I were married both at the age of 18 right out of school.
You know the person you're with extremely well, and you know better than anyone else if you are ready to make that decision. We support each other and will go the distance no matter what has to happen. Or Im just dumped in a spiritual desert in the middle of nowhere…. I just have something pulling me away right now. People, such as my coworker, were surprised that we were financially independent of our parents.
Now everybody at church knew were getting married because we loved each other and this was the choice we had made together. It has been great for me but I'm not one to lament over what I may or may not have missed out on. We are both Christian but have already been living like we are married for the past 2 years. If you and your potential mate are ready and willing to go through life's trials and get into the 20-somethings adventures together, I say go for it. .
Keep on praying and growing together and your marriage will be totally wonderful!! My parents were married at 18, 2 kids by 21, together till my dad went to be with the Lord at 63. We went through a lot of the same things that you went through. We are more financially stable, happy and successful at 22 and 25 years of age than people 8-10 years older than us that we know are married. So, I am glad I came across this post because the people doubting me were really starting to bring me down but this post brought me back up. Being married was one more transition, but it was kind of exciting to face all those things together and know that you had that support system in place. You change less and less with each decade, but the first three are massive rites of passage. Can you problem solve together? It could be that his parents just want to hear that you have a game plan.
Is it merely a matter of pride that is behind the urge to argue, to make snarky comments, to nit pick? I want to be with the love of my life and it's disappointing that so many people get divorced these days, and that there is a stigma surrounding young couples getting married. Thankyou for writing about the myths of getting married young! But again reading this has helped me a lot. This article originally appeared on. Marriage is already challenging, and adding the uncertainties of military life to the mix is just a tragedy waiting to happen. While it has been challenging at times for sure, I feel so blessed to have the found the one the Lord had for me at a young age! We started as friends but within a couple months we were officially a couple. Imagine how different you were then? Remembering that there truly is very little worth arguing about in a marriage of like minds makes it a lot easier.
My husband was 19 and I was 20 when we got married in 2008. Keep doing what you do, you are such a blessing! I have fallen head over heels for your blog. And if I wasn't privileged enough to be witnessing the extraordinary minds and hearts of the young people with whom I work, I'd agree with this mainstream metropolitan message. The only difference is, you have someone to grow and learn with. Some people who get married young do so under social or religious pressure, or just without much consideration of consequences.
I always wanted to get married young. We too had our families support, my parents paid for our wedding yes we had a wedding ceremony in our church and reception. My husband is the same way. When in reality, we had talked about it for a long time and had hours and hours of conversations. I had a lot of fun with a lot of girls, but now I know what's out there.
They say a woman needs to feel love, but one of the most important things your husband needs to feel is your respect. Thank you for sharing your story. My sister got married a month after turning 21. To top it off they have remained pure and plan to until their wedding night. If you're still asking the question, you're probably not ready yet. We are still best friends.