He was a kind person and a good first boyfriend, but he didn't want anything serious and was more interested in going to the bars all night with his friends something I couldn't do with him. A female reader, anonymous, writes 11 September 2006 : I really don't see that there is anything wrong with what you are doing. This will hint to him that you are after a serious relationship and not just sex. The state no state gives two hoots what you do as long as you leave anything sexual out of it. I did have guy friends who were older and who liked me. Again I stress relationships are complex things, a mere 7 year age difference is only one factor of many to determine the goodness or badness of a relationship. It went from once or twice a day to three times a week.
If you're good looking and receive a lot of attention from men, then what drew him to you are your looks and your youth. I am going to keep seeing this man, but I think that all of your opinions are very valid and I am going to take the relationship very slow. There is the constant pressure of his peer group regarding marriage and children and if you are not ready for this then it can really send you crazy. My guess is all of your mates are dead jealous. Stay strong and true to the fact that you deserve someone willing to put in the energy required of dating, and unfortunately your friend does not appear to have the readiness at this particular juncture. This is also around the time when my sex life started to slowly go down hill. While I feel he does love me, it is only in the way that a 22 year old can understand love…which is not the same as a man in their 30s.
Would your parents be okay with you dating him now? Where is your pride and dignity girl this is not acceptable and you are falling for bs excuses. You should be quite proud of yourself, got yourself a little toyboy. He is 33 and knows how to play the game significantly better than some 19 or 21 year old schmuck. After about 8 months of getting sex maybe once a month, I told him that I was done. They have loved you since before you were even born.
I was scared of having two kids as well but it's great. Lesson learned — all the love in the world cannot save people from growing and changing over time. When a man is disrespectful of you at any age it gets old quick. Unfortunately, we seem to be on different pages at times. The memories are magical though.
If being with this man is what makes you happy, then they will either see that right off the bat, or they will have to learn to see it in time. A female reader, , writes 26 December 2011 : I am in a very similar situation. He mother and sisters got involved and started messaging me that Im to old for him. No amount of chances is going to make you feel secure. Please tell me what you think, and if you have been in an age-gap relationship I would love to hear what it was like, and what problems you faced. Before making any decision or accepting any legal advice, you should have a proper legal consultation with a licensed attorney with whom you have an attorney-client privilege. Spend time on getting to know him, so then you will get to see the real him.
I know the first thing that comes to mind is that he just wants me for sex, but that's not true. Even when you are 18…you are still a teenager. If that isn't possible though just be wise and see If you can tell is he's being genuine. He will grow into a man but this is just his start. My initial idea was to wait until after I graduated, because hopefully then they'd have the idea that I was about to be on my own anyway, so they couldn't really stop me.
You have a child that is 7. Her husband on the other hand was happy — he wanted her home to cook and raise kids…that was what he married and wanted. That may be interpreted as meaning that they worry he is exploiting you not that the age difference itself is the problem. So as long as you accept the behavior and he gets no consequences meaning you walk then you may as well just paste stupid on your forehead. And at 19 it still is. I felt worthless and rejected.
The problem with large age gaps is that there tends to be an imbalance of power in the relationship. You sound like a mature young woman, and you are wise and strong. On another note, I do take care of my body. We get on really well and he says I am far more fun than his ex girlfriend who is 6 years younger than me. I think this would concern your family too, as they may feel that he's taking advantage of you since you're so much younger. Hes currently in the military and can be away for up to 7 months at a time. He told me yesterday that he knows im scared to get hurt again but that he wants to be the guy for me and take care of me.
So know were dating its been a month now and hes such a good boyfriend to me. Continue to hang out with him but don't make up excuses of where you're going. Your experience might influence my decisions in some way. I have a friend who fell in love and married at 17. It's great but I have to say that it's other people's comments that are their problem, not ours. I find that age is a number…. You clean up your own mess.