To create is to know, they say. Therefore, she accepted the responsibility of introducing her six children to Jesus Christ. Now, please understand that I was not a wise, mature Christian. I commit to developing simple habits that make a difference in the culture of my home. Husbands, let go of your preconceived notions of what it means to be a spiritual leader. Usually, in a hierarchical situation, the follower ends up not being fully mature, since the buck always stops with the leader.
Friend, God has your back. And because I didn't lead spiritually, she picked up the leadership reins. You are now in a different ball game than most of humankind. We need to be in the word of God daily in order to embed these truths into our hearts so that they will transform us by the renewing of our minds. If we were to stop and look back at the different leaders we have seen in action, we could probably quickly think of the great leaders we desired to follow and the poor leaders that we would never willingly follow again. Making major decisions for the home, but not before discussing your decision with your wife, unless for some reason she is unable to interact with you and the decision needs to be made immediately.
Having it will forever distract the critic's eye away from your over-the-top personality toward that genius. But she quietly continued to pray and fast for the man she loved. And although I serve a gracious and forgiving God, I am still accountable to God for my actions. His spiritual disinterest placed my grandmother, Juanita Dobson, under great pressure, for she was a devout Christian who felt she must put God first. Ephesians 5:23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. Not a good way to be a biblical husband. He must be proactive, spotting potential challenges to the welfare of his wife and children and coming up with workable solutions to problems.
And he must be characterized by integrity, seeking to be the safest, wisest and most respected man his family has ever known. Right now I need help with patience and keeping my mouth shut. As you indicated, some Christian leaders instruct women to wait passively for their husbands to assume spiritual responsibility. Hence God wants our husbands to love him and Christ his son as Christ taught …and he will love his wife and lead by example as Christ did. Not the man pounding his chest. Identify and Examine Your Expectations for Spiritual Leadership First things first.
Too many Christians think it is their job to work up the desire to do what God expects them to do. They compare their individual aptitudes and assume tasks based on their individual strengths. The role of a spiritual servant-leader A spiritual servant-leader, then, imitates Christ. Until that leadership is accepted, they recommend that wives stay out of the way and let God put pressure on the husband to assume the role that He's given to men. Blog content may only be reprinted or republished with the express written permission of the author and Family Talk.
It was a matter of emptying myself of my preconceived expectations on this matter. Fathers also play a significant role in passing on a spiritual foundation to their children—especially sons. Are you a person that has little ego or commits to selfless behavior for the betterment of the human race? Many times people will write articles about you, some will publish your stuff, but in order to stay in control over your universal image you must produce in-house. And I came to the point where I liked it. I strongly disagree with that view when small children are involved. If the issue focused only on the spiritual welfare of a husband and wife, then a woman could afford to bide her time. If the kids go to church on Sunday, it's because I wake them up and see that they get ready.
I used to be extremely conservative and patriarchal in my thinking, to the extent that I wondered whether married women really needed to vote or not! In short, I feel that the spiritual life of children and adults is simply too important for a woman to postpone for two or four or six years, hoping her husband will eventually awaken. Our spiritual issue, not our husbands'. In most of those cases, we suspect that no one knew we were attending, as they never approached us. He just needed encouragement and help in our earlier years of being Christians, to get to that place. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying…. Why can't we both do it? Our odyssey to Good Shepherd was probably not unusual. Hierarchies are easy to understand.
Maybe even a little bit hurt. You set forth the plan. What does a spiritual leader of the home really look like? Save little children from starving in Africa, help the victims of natural catastrophes in Japan or Indonesia. Okay, lots of occasions… 6. God has done a miracle in our 17years together and we are now, by His grace very involved in helping others along. I find myself struggling with spiritual leadership. But a Godly man should know how to rule his own home and that is all through the Bible.