That's what i expected and we had hoped his union had told him he was taking time off he was causing to much trouble over it. Its taken me 13 years, I still love my friend but I know that we are better off out of each others lives. Put his father on O2. The millinialls where the worst leaving and coming home from Bavaria hoping that our return with our Olive branch held out for having him work the holiday down week out of the county jail. I stay quiet while he is on his rampage but this often makes him more angry.
Thank you for reaching out. All he does is lie on the couch. I am at my wits end. Thank goodness I started going to Al Anon, and thank you to all of you who have shared your heartbreaking stories here. There is no such thing as my feelings. I admit it is out of control, but I never say anything negative.
I was wrong to ask him to slow down. . We came back from Bavaria with an offer from the company and his union for the 32 that was not allowed to use their seniority to have that holiday off, The offer for my husband was From His birthday to the 24th of January he could take the time off as the replacement for the time he should have had off by the seniority he had. We pretend to be happy, we can actually fake it for a few days here and there, but no one around us knows the battle every night we face when he lies to me about getting alcohol. I just totally avoid her.
See your words, actions, and support as stepping stones to your husband acknowledging his addiction and seeking recovery. I do not see anything as a contract unless I sign a contract. Losing ones self should not be an option to stay with an alcoholic however I have no choice at the moment. This is an emotional grip that inevitably calms the nerves. There has been nothing nice since January 2013.
And when it starts there are no limit to below the belt words that he spits. With the skills they learned in treatment, they can course-correct and keep moving forward with their sobriety. Never marry a man a the man that shows you red flags, because they are red flags. Quite the conundrum…if that is the correct spelling. Especially when I read the extreme struggles and horrible things other women go through. . I am lonely and see a very bleak future once my four kids move on.
I try to be as compassionate as possible but he walks all over me. He didn't want to understand and blamed me for it. I am also angry at myself for listening to his initial excuses when I first addressed my concerns about his drinking — he said it was because he missed me…. I love him more than I can express — but I feel his actions reflect the opposite feelings toward me. My partner tried to isolate me from my family and friends. When she is not drinking she is a great mum and loves our daughter to bits.
Well, a big part of his problem is his grudge holding. He has walked outside totally naked, knocked on strangers doors telling them he is lost, he has been pulled over by the police on his motorized scooter more times than I can remember. The real question should be—what is he hiding behind his anger? Every week he drinks so much he blacks out. That was the start of every three years he would stay and work as we went someplace on a family and friend vacation and we would come back to his killing the good feeling that we had figured out ways to leave him working again. I don't even recognize who I am. I honestly do not have any love left for him.
Post-treatment Care Many rehab patients — both residential and outpatient — have understandable concerns about remaining sober after treatment. Tired of trying so hard to keep it all together when he destroys everything. Me saying if you drink its your problem, dont make it mine. Until the point came where we saw that the person who needed compassion was us and our children - not the alcoholic. Therefore, overcoming codependency is overcoming addiction. Relapse is something every alcoholic and their family should be prepared for, as rates of drug and alcohol relapse range from 40 to 60 percent. Just for Today, I may not work it perfectly but I have a program! You need a safe place to process, heal and find encouragement.